Am I Selfish Quiz
Answer all 12 questions the way you actually act, not how you’d like to see yourself. It takes about 3 minutes, and at the end you’ll get a plain reading of how far your everyday choices lean toward your own needs versus everyone else’s.
The Wide Lens. Signs of selfishness are minimal.
Across the situations this test asks about, your default is to register what other people need and act on it without being reminded. A fair split tends to stay fair on its own, a favor gets returned before anyone has to ask twice, and someone else's bad day usually lands on your radar before they've said a word about it.
The strength here is consistency. It's less a passing mood than a habit.
One thing worth saying plainly: landing here doesn't require you to say yes to everyone or set your own plans aside. Saying no, resting, or putting your own needs first sometimes is a separate quality from what this scale measures - it doesn't count against this result at all.
What this snapshot can't tell you is how this pattern holds up once attentiveness starts costing you something bigger than a moment's inconvenience.
Mostly Outward. Signs of selfishness are slight.
Most of the time, across the situations this test tracks, attentiveness to other people leads: you notice, you follow through, you keep things roughly fair. The exceptions are real, but they stay exceptions rather than becoming a running theme.
It might look like forgetting to return a small favor once in a while, or letting your own convenience win when a decision is genuinely unclear. It happens, and then it passes.
If you're reading this while worried that saying no to someone recently makes you selfish: it doesn't. Boundary-setting and self-care aren't scored here at all - they're a separate quality from what pushed your answers into this band, and one occasional self-prioritizing moment isn't the same thing as the pattern this scale is actually built to catch.
The strength is that the exceptions stay exceptions. What's worth watching is whether they start clustering around the same kind of situation.
The Split Table. Signs of selfishness are moderate.
Your answers land close to the middle of nearly everything this test tracks. That's not indecision; the pattern genuinely depends on the situation. Some days you notice a friend's rough mood before they say a word; other days, your own plans quietly win out when it's unclear whose should.
This is a real, substantial profile, not a placeholder for an unclear answer. Roughly equal measures of self-focus and attentiveness show up across how you split things, return favors, and handle moments where it isn't obvious who should give way.
The strength is flexibility. You're not locked into one mode. The cost is less predictability: people close to you may not always know which version of you shows up on a given day.
What tips the balance one way or the other, in your specific situations, is the part a snapshot like this can't answer on its own.
Your Own Corner. Signs of selfishness are noticeable.
Across these situations, your own needs tend to come first more often than noticing what other people need. A bigger share tends to end up on your side of the split, and accommodation is something you expect more than something you offer back.
It can look like a favor that sits unreturned longer than it should, or a rule that bends specifically once no one's watching.
None of that makes this a verdict on your character - it's a pattern worth noticing in these particular situations, worth a second look rather than a reason to feel bad.
The upside is that you're rarely left short-changed. What it may be costing you is harder to see from the inside: whether the people around you are quietly keeping score. That's worth talking through with someone you trust, rather than carrying alone.
Center of the Table. Signs of selfishness are strong.
Across nearly all the situations this test tracks, the pattern is consistent: your own needs come first, a favor tends to go unreturned, and a bigger share tends to end up on your side without much of a second thought.
At the more sensitive end, this can include turning on extra warmth specifically when something is wanted from someone, or letting someone else absorb a cost that benefits you, without much hesitation.
This describes a pattern across these particular situations right now: not a verdict on who you are, just something worth noticing. Patterns like this can and do shift once someone actually sees them written down.
What's worth doing with this isn't panic. It's one honest conversation with someone you trust, about how this pattern actually shows up for the people around you.
Your results are no accident
The classic 16-type personality test rooted in Jung's typology has been rebuilt from the ground up: a new CoreTypes methodology, and a far higher level of accuracy. These might be the most useful ten minutes you'll ever spend on yourself: you walk away with the key to your decisions, your relationships and your results — and it's yours for good.
Take the free testFrequently Asked Questions
Is self-care selfish?
No. This test doesn't score self-care or saying no to something as selfishness at all. That's a separate, independent quality from everything it actually measures, and you can set a firm boundary and still land anywhere on this scale, including the low end.
Would I call a friend selfish for doing what I just did?
It's a genuinely useful gut-check on a result that feels heavier than it should. If the exact same behavior (taking the bigger slice once, forgetting to return a small favor) would barely register as a flaw in someone else, the anxiety about your own result is probably doing more work than the behavior itself.
What if I'm selfish without even realizing it?
That's exactly why the questions here describe specific moments: a split bill, an unreturned favor, a rule bent when no one's watching, instead of just asking you to rate yourself as "selfish" outright. Patterns like these are genuinely easier to spot from the outside than to judge from a single question about your own character.
How do I know if I'm actually a selfish person, and what do I do about it?
This test doesn't answer that question on purpose. It describes a pattern across specific situations at the time you took it, the way a photo describes a moment rather than a life story. Even the higher end of the scale is written as something worth reflecting on and talking through with someone you trust, never as a verdict on your character.
Methodology
This test is built on personality-psychology research into facets that sit near the self-interested end of ordinary behavior: attention to others, fairness and reciprocity, felt entitlement, and the use of other people for personal advantage. It measures the degree to which everyday choices lean toward your own needs versus attentiveness to other people's, across those facets, as a single scale running from minimal to pronounced.
Like any self-report measure, it reflects how you describe your own behavior in the specific situations asked about here. It's a self-portrait, not an outside assessment or a personality diagnosis.
One thing this test deliberately does not score: healthy boundary-setting and self-care. They're a separate, independent quality from what this scale measures, and a result here shouldn't be read as a verdict on whether you're "allowed" to say no or take care of yourself. For more on that distinction, see this piece on the limits of empathy and this one on perspective-taking and actually helping.
Your result describes a pattern in these situations at the time you took the test, and patterns like this can shift. What it isn't is a fixed identity or a moral verdict.
References
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- Hilbig, B. E., & Zettler, I. (2009). Pillars of cooperation: Honesty-Humility, social value orientations, and economic behavior. Journal of Research in Personality, 43, 516–519.
